COACH’S WIFE AND BASKETBALL MOM
MARCH MADNESS… WHY THE BIG DANCE FEELS MORE LIKE AN EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER
By Dayo Lanier, M.D.
“If heavy sighing was an Olympic sport, I’d have a gold medal today… losing during March Madness is tough.” – Dayo Lanier, M.D.
The Emotional Rollercoaster That is March Madness
March Madness often reminds me of an adventure park or carnival of sorts…
There are the energetic mascots—providing endless photo and high-five opportunities.
The coaching carousel—a dizzying “ride” that begins as soon as March Madness does, if not before. And it is fascinating (or terrifying) to watch, depending on where you’re standing.
Lastly, there’s the emotional rollercoaster—the excitement of making it to The Dance!
Watching nail-bitingly close games and buzzer-beating shots. Feeling the energy of the crowd, and the elation of surviving and advancing…
There’s also the uncertainty of Selection Sunday. The nervousness of playing on the big stage. And the devastation and heartbreak that comes with a season-ending loss.
As a coach’s wife and a basketball mom, my ride on the “emotional rollercoaster” of March was of the extended variety…
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TWO STEP by Rob Lanier
Every year at the Men’s Basketball Final Four there is the National Association of Basketball Coaches (NABC) Convention. For so many coaches this is the place to be! There are countless gatherings and opportunities to spend time with your peers/colleagues and enjoy all the festivities surrounding one of the biggest events in all of sports.
This particular year the Final Four was being held in Tampa, Florida. I was still pretty much a newlywed since my wife, Dayo, and I had not had our 1 year anniversary yet. So we went down to Tampa together and had a great time and she got yet another taste of how all of this college basketball stuff works.
RECALLING MY NBA DAYS… ALL 5 OF THEM by Rob Lanier
Spring of 2005. What a tough time. The dream opportunity as the Head Coach at a program like Siena College had come to an end. It was a great job with great people at a place that truly cared about basketball…and it was mine. Now after 4 years of ups and downs I was faced with the reality of being fired at the age of 36. Not a very easy pill to swallow. During that particular time my appreciation for the value of my family was greatly enhanced. So now I was faced with the question of how I would continue to provide for them. Do I take a job as an assistant coach and subject my family to more of the uncertainty inherent in the coaching profession? Or do I use this time to explore other more stable opportunities? Like what? I’ve never done anything else and I’ve never had a passion for anything else.
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Dayo Lanier excused herself from the phone to answer the door. A deliveryman was there, hardly a unique experience these days at the Lanier household, where boxes are starting to outnumber furniture pieces.
“Oh my goodness, roses,” Dayo Lanier exclaimed as she opened the door.
Rob Lanier is heading to Texas after being offered the associate head coach position by Rick Barnes. Mike Ehrmann/Getty Images
The welcome visitor held a dozen red roses in his arms, a gift from Dayo’s husband, Rob.
The Laniers celebrated their 13th wedding anniversary Monday. Or maybe “commemorated” would be more accurate, since “celebrated” implies time together, and geography made being together impossible for the Laniers.
On Monday, Rob was in Austin, Texas, beginning his new life as Rick Barnes’ associate head coach at the University of Texas, and Dayo (pronounced Die-oh) was in Gainesville, Fla., packing up Rob’s old life as Billy Donovan’s assistant at the University of Florida.
Dayo took the solo anniversary day in stride. She’s used to it. In 13 years of marriage, the woman who is a doctor by trade has become an expert in relocation. Austin will be Rob’s eighth coaching stop, his sixth since he’s been married to Dayo.