Lesson Learned As our family begins our 3rd week of distance learning, my list of “lessons learned” continues to grow. One lesson that is abundantly clear—it’s time for more structure, and self-compassion. Ready To Slow Down After the whirlwind that often typifies the Lanier Experience: our recent relocation to a new city (Atlanta) for my husband’s new job, downsizing into…
Let Go of What you Can’t Control Let go of what you can’t control and focus on what you can. Special thanks to my beautiful friend, Mavis for sending the awesome graphic (below) to me yesterday (from thecounselingteacher.com). As news regarding Coronavirus continues, it can be tough to balance staying informed with avoiding the anxiety that news updates can cause.…
Surround Yourself with Support Surround yourself with friends who recognize your uniqueness, accept your differences, and support your dreams. Whenever you begin to doubt yourself or feel uncertain, they’ll be the ones to remind you what your gifts, talents, experiences, and purpose-driven leanings really are… your super powers! Dayo Wilson Lanier, M.D.
Peace in Your Mind “Set peace in your mind as your highest goal, and organize your life around it.” – Brian Tracy I love this quote by Brian Tracy! It represents a primary goal for me, yet is something I need to be reminded of daily. Often we follow the reverse of this advice… Setting other things—success, money, possessions, or…
“What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” – Spencer Johnson, M.D. I love this quote from Dr. Spencer Johnson’s book, “Who Moved My Cheese?”—a thought-provoking, parable-style story that has helped millions deal with change in their lives. It’s one of my favorite books, so I was beyond excited when I found out there was a “Who Moved My Cheese?…
Perfectionism… An Endless Treadmill Today, I was inspired by a quote (poem) from Victoria Erickson: “Perfectionism is merely an endless treadmill of self-destruction that’ll only build momentum until you’re running at unsustainable speeds. Rather than remaining a slave to the illusions you perceive as safe, step off the treadmill and live as the piece of art you are: messy, colorful,…
Introverts thrive on quiet time. They gain energy and strength from being alone, and are oriented to the inner world of ideas and thoughts. Empaths have the innate ability to read and understand people. They are compassionate and considerate, and have the ability to “feel” what someone else is experiencing and feeling. Both introverts and empaths need time alone to…
The Overparenting Trap A great deal of pressure is placed on kids to succeed these days. When it looks like our children aren’t achieving to our satisfaction, parents often jump in and “help” them along. We let them know—through our words and our actions—that their efforts aren’t meeting our standards. While we may not realize we’re doing this, I think we…
I love this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt. It reminds me to live in the moment, enthusiastically and without fear. Often, we find ourselves racing from task to task or crisis to crisis—Focused on where we’ve been and where we’re going, instead of being in the moment (where we are and what we’re doing currently). It’s easy to become preoccupied, looking back at…
